How to Start Living Your Perfect Life

Have you ever wondered why things happen in your life as they do? Do you ever ask yourself, why is this happening to me? Does life anger, confuse or frustrate you with what it throws at you sometimes? If you are human, and are honest with yourself, then you will most definitely answer yes to all the above questions. We all desire to know the answer to this enigmatic question, “are the events in our life random, or is there something greater taking place that we cannot naturally see?”

The answer, in reality, is a lot simpler and easier to grasp than we would originally think. Actually, it is the mind, or more specifically, the ego-mind, that is the very cause for such a question needing to be asked. If it wasn’t for the ego-mind, such a question would be irrelevant, as the answer would be eternally before our eyes. For those of you not acquainted with the ego-mind, here is a brief description.

As human beings, we have a split mind in our current phase of progression. We have a unified-mind and an ego-mind. At any given moment, we have only two choices; to see life through the unified-mind or to see it through the ego. The unified-mind is connected with all things, sees all things as being one, and perceives things as they really are. The ego, on the other hand, separates all things, sees things as being separate from the self, and perceives things according to our beliefs, values, language, memory, past experiences etc. The unified-mind perceives reality; the ego perceives illusion.

The problem for each of us is this: we tend to identify with and look at life through the ego, instead of the unified mind. The ego, because it sees things as being separate, creates the illusion that people and events are external to us. On the other hand, reality, only perceivable through the unified-mind, sees all life as being one with us. The unified-mind is based on the truth that, ‘there is only one person in the room’, and that all things are one and interconnected. But, to the ego, such things are ridiculous, as it is based on the illusion that, ‘there are many people in the room’.

For many, this will be the first time you have come across these concepts. Please be aware, that you will most likely be reading this with the ego-mind, and not the unified-mind. Resultantly, your ego will be disgusted at these words, and will be resisting them vehemently. The ego helps form that little voice in your head that talks to you constantly, the one that you have a hard time turning off sometimes. Essentially, these words challenge the ego, especially the hold it has upon your life and what you perceive within it.

The whole purpose of the ego is to create and maintain the illusion of separation. One of the main principles it works according to is found in the phrase, “perception is projection.” Simply put, what we perceive in others is our own projections coming from the ego. If we dislike how our co-worker has a short temper, it is because we also have a short temper. If we regularly get gossiped about, and it angers us, it is because we also gossip, and we feel guilty about it. In reality, all that we experience in others and life is a reflection of our own inner projections. The ego projects all these things, and then perceives them outside in others, thus confirming to itself the illusion that these things are separate from the self. This is the cycle of illusion that we are all trapped in to different degrees.

Thus, to live a perfect life, and answer the great question asked at the start, we must expose the ego, and start living from our unified-mind. When we live from the unified-mind, we accept that everything is perfect in any given moment. This is the true meaning of love. Love can only be experienced from the unified-mind, as the ego only experiences fear, anger, sadness etc. We can only access the unified-mind in the present moment, as all thoughts of past and future come from the ego-mind. This is why the unified-mind perceives reality, as reality only exists NOW, in the moment. This is the great secret to life that it exists in the moment; there is no past or present, only one eternal now. The ego cannot exist in the moment. Because of this, you or I can never live a perfect life from the ego, as ego is based on illusion, and in reality, it doesn’t even exist. This may come as a shock to some, but know it is only the ego-mind that finds this shocking, as the unified-mind, who you really are, already knows and accepts all these truths.

To live your perfect life is to live in the moment. It is to know and trust that each moment will reveal the best course of action. It is to cast off the ego and start perceiving life through the perfect lens of your unified-mind. When you come to realise that you are the only person you interact with every day, you will start living your life, instead of having life live you. The perfect life is to see the universe as a great mirror, always reflecting back to us our own projections, ultimately to move us closer to love. It is to accept that life already is perfect each and every moment. In this way, your perfect life is that of perfect love. To attain this perfect love, we must let go of the ego and start embracing the unified-mind, who we really are.

The Art of Letting Go

Have you ever noticed how the more you try and control your life, the worse it seems to get? In the same vein, have you noticed how the more attached you are to an outcome happening ‘the way you want it’ actually makes it not happen that way at all? Have you ever wondered why it happens that way? If you’re like most people, including yours truly, then the answer is yes.

I personally have experienced this multiple times in my life. You might ask yourself in times like these, like I do, what the heck is going on? Why can’t I seem to control everything that goes on in my life? I mean, isn’t that the purpose of life in the first place, to learn to control life more and live it like you want? I don’t know about you, but this is the impression I was under growing up. So then what is really going on here?

As you begin to ponder such questions, I want you to start thinking about times in your life when you seemed detached from the outcome, where you couldn’t care less what happened. As you think back into the past right now, do you notice how most of those events actually turned out in a positive way, much to your surprise? Have you ever noticed that the more you let go of the outcome, or the less you try to control it, the more likely it is to work out for you? Does this seem confusing to you?

What is going on here? This seems to contradict what logic says should happen in our lives. Why is it that the more attached you are, the less likely it is too happen the way you want it? Wouldn’t it make sense to have something work how you want it? And so it is that the remainder of this post is dedicated to answering these questions and more.

It is interesting to note as one begins to contemplate such questions, that there appears on the surface to be a great paradox here. In the first place we are told to set goals, in some cases to set very precise goals, for how we want to live our lives. Yet it seems that if we become too attached to these goals, that they are never achieved the way we want. Then on the other hand, if we set a goal and let go of how it is achieved, it seems more likely that a way is provided to accomplish that goal and then some. Talk about Pandora’s Box!

This introduces us to one of life’s greatest paradoxes; the paradox that we are in control of our lives and not in control of our lives at the same time. For many this will be your first time thinking in such a way. On this train of thought let us delve head first into figuring out exactly what is going on here.

On the surface it does seem much like a paradox, but as we delve deeper we find it is not a paradox at all. As we look at this great paradox from an energetic point of view we find the following: 1) when you are attached too what you want you’re vibrating lack, that you don’t have what you want; 2) when you are detached from the outcome you are vibrating in harmony with what you want, that you do have it. Do you notice the difference? It is all about our state in the present moment. Why is it that way? It is because the present moment is all there really is. No other moment exists outside of now!

In that way it matters little what we want in the future, but everything about whom we are now. It is the present moment that creates the future, one moment at a time. And so we have uncovered the two major ingredients in how to create the life we want. First we must be detached from the outcome, and second we must vibrate in harmony with what it is we want. Let’s look at these two ingredients separately for a moment.

There is a reason why being detached allows you to bring the thing you want into reality. It is because all possibilities exist in the now; present, past and future. All things past, present and future exist right now. We are unlimited beings with the potential to become anything we desire to be. The universe is on our side if we allow it by letting go. Being detached tells the universe that you already have what you want, which is the truth. When you live and vibrate from this truth, you allow it to become a reality in your life. Alternately, when you are attached it tells the universe that you do not have what you want, which is false. When you live and vibrate from this illusion, you stop what you want from becoming a reality.

Therefore the key to obtaining what you want in your life is to be in vibrational harmony with it all the while remaining detached. To narrow it down even further you can say it is all about who you are, as your state creates your reality. Therefore the art of letting go comes down to acknowledging within yourself that you already have everything you need to create the life you want. You can be, do and have anything you desire once you realise that you are a being of infinite potential and light.

In my own life I have found that once I set the intention for what I want it is best to leave it to the universe, to God, to bring about how it becomes a reality in my life. Put another way, it is us that determines the what and why and God that provides the when and how. It is not our job to dictate how something should happen, nor should it be. What great relief this provides to the person that comes to this understanding. Oh the pressure that comes off the shoulders when one realises that they do not have to know the how and when.

As we let go of trying to determine the how and when in life we begin to experience greater success. Once we set the intention, the why and what, it is about letting go and staying detached from the thing we want, for in the very act of doing so, we find it appearing in the most glorious of ways. And this is the secret and beauty of life, not knowing exactly how things will happen in life, but knowing all the while that it will happen. May we all begin to let go in our lives so that we may experience life in all the beauty and splendour that it has to offer.