Have
you ever noticed how the more you try and control your life, the worse it seems
to get? In the same vein, have you noticed how the more attached you are to an
outcome happening ‘the way you want it’ actually makes it not happen that way
at all? Have you ever wondered why it happens that way? If you’re like most
people, including yours truly, then the answer is yes.
I
personally have experienced this multiple times in my life. You might ask
yourself in times like these, like I do, what the heck is going on? Why can’t I
seem to control everything that goes on in my life? I mean, isn’t that the
purpose of life in the first place, to learn to control life more and live it
like you want? I don’t know about you, but this is the impression I was under
growing up. So then what is really going on here?
As
you begin to ponder such questions, I want you to start thinking about times in
your life when you seemed detached from the outcome, where you couldn’t care
less what happened. As you think back into the past right now, do you notice
how most of those events actually turned out in a positive way, much to your
surprise? Have you ever noticed that the more you let go of the outcome, or the
less you try to control it, the more likely it is to work out for you? Does
this seem confusing to you?
What
is going on here? This seems to contradict what logic says should happen in our
lives. Why is it that the more attached you are, the less likely it is too
happen the way you want it? Wouldn’t it make sense to have something work how
you want it? And so it is that the remainder of this post is dedicated to
answering these questions and more.
It
is interesting to note as one begins to contemplate such questions, that there
appears on the surface to be a great paradox here. In the first place we are
told to set goals, in some cases to set very precise goals, for how we want to
live our lives. Yet it seems that if we become too attached to these goals,
that they are never achieved the way we want. Then on the other hand, if we set
a goal and let go of how it is achieved, it seems more likely that a way is
provided to accomplish that goal and then some. Talk about Pandora’s Box!
This
introduces us to one of life’s greatest paradoxes; the paradox that we are in
control of our lives and not in control of our lives at the same time. For many
this will be your first time thinking in such a way. On this train of thought let
us delve head first into figuring out exactly what is going on here.
On
the surface it does seem much like a paradox, but as we delve deeper we find it
is not a paradox at all. As we look at this great paradox from an energetic
point of view we find the following: 1) when you are attached too what you want
you’re vibrating lack, that you don’t have what you want; 2) when you are
detached from the outcome you are vibrating in harmony with what you want, that
you do have it. Do you notice the difference? It is all about our state in the
present moment. Why is it that way? It is because the present moment is all
there really is. No other moment exists outside of now!
In
that way it matters little what we want in the future, but everything about whom
we are now. It is the present moment that creates the future, one moment at a
time. And so we have uncovered the two major ingredients in how to create the
life we want. First we must be detached from the outcome, and second we must vibrate
in harmony with what it is we want. Let’s look at these two ingredients separately
for a moment.
There
is a reason why being detached allows you to bring the thing you want into
reality. It is because all possibilities exist in the now; present, past and
future. All things past, present and future exist right now. We are unlimited
beings with the potential to become anything we desire to be. The universe is
on our side if we allow it by letting go. Being detached tells the universe
that you already have what you want, which is the truth. When you live and
vibrate from this truth, you allow it to become a reality in your life.
Alternately, when you are attached it tells the universe that you do not have
what you want, which is false. When you live and vibrate from this illusion,
you stop what you want from becoming a reality.
Therefore
the key to obtaining what you want in your life is to be in vibrational harmony
with it all the while remaining detached. To narrow it down even further you
can say it is all about who you are,
as your state creates your reality. Therefore the art of letting go comes down
to acknowledging within yourself that you already have everything you need to
create the life you want. You can be, do and have anything you desire once you
realise that you are a being of infinite potential and light.
In
my own life I have found that once I set the intention for what I want it is
best to leave it to the universe, to God, to bring about how it becomes a
reality in my life. Put another way, it is us that determines the what and why
and God that provides the when and how. It is not our job to dictate how
something should happen, nor should it be. What great relief this provides to
the person that comes to this understanding. Oh the pressure that comes off the
shoulders when one realises that they do not have to know the how and when.
As
we let go of trying to determine the how and when in life we begin to
experience greater success. Once we set the intention, the why and what, it is
about letting go and staying detached from the thing we want, for in the very
act of doing so, we find it appearing in the most glorious of ways. And this is
the secret and beauty of life, not knowing exactly how things will happen in
life, but knowing all the while that it will happen. May we all begin to let go
in our lives so that we may experience life in all the beauty and splendour
that it has to offer.
